I have 5 kids - triplets (fraternal girls, 19), daughter (13), and son (11). ALL 5 HAVE SOME ISSUE!! But not all is ADHD. Comes from my husband's side of the family...though they never went to doctors or were diagnosed with anything. Self medication with alcohol. As a family, we have been supportive, have not put our kids under high pressure for school, etc.
Triplets - all three have some sort of anxiety issue. One is practically nonfunctioning, never finished school, etc. and I suspect there are undiagnosed things going on with her (autism). She is on state disability, has been in residential programs, is currently in a specialized young adult program, maybe I will post about her situation separately...but she does not have ADHD, maybe ADD, but she is diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. Second one has panic attacks but is HIGH functioning and is currently going to college at an art school. Was one of the top artists at her school. Third one finished high school, but hated school, and can't seem to get herself going from there - does nothing because she has anxiety about new situations, interviews, etc.
13 year old is currently in a residential school (home on weekends) because she started having issues in 4th grade, leading to refusal to attend school in middle school (tried several different schools and levels of support). She is diagnosed with ADHD and anxiety. Concerta worked from 1st grade - 4th grade, but did have some negative side effects that made her noncommunicative, grunt, and she "lost" her personality. We tried every other medicine for ADHD, bipolar, etc. We had her genetically tested for drug tolerances and found that she metabolizes quickly and would need super strong doses (I also have this issue). She is now only on Clonidine at night to help her sleep. She is doing really well in school and we are going to start transitioning her home a day at a time in about a week. However, I am nervous about the upcoming transition to high school - it will not be a regular, public high school, but still concerned.
11 year old son has been on Concerta since 1st grade and we have slowly had to increase his dose. He is small for his age, and since he is a September/cut off baby, I kept him home an extra year before sending him to kindergarten. He is in 5th, but could have been in 6th. He does great in school and loves it....but his med dosage has climbed so high (at the max) for such a little guy, and he has terrible rebound. We do give him an afternoon dose but that's a LOT of medicine - I'm sure he has the same tolerance issue that his sister has. He does have a really great personality, caring, smart, etc., when meds are working. Is on safety patrol, student council, etc.
All 5 of my children are highly intelligent/GATE/seminar. But I am exhausted with dealing with all of this! I should also state that I am a teacher and the school thing has been very hard for me to deal with, because this was not me at all. I loved school.