You don't have to be the strong one here, Sue. I'm sorry that you haven't received any replies to this post. I think a lot of people here are so overwhelmed by dealing with kids and ADD and "just stuff" that they just don't have what they need (mostly time and emotional energy) to respond.
I don't deal with ADD: I'm with Ben's Friends because I have a chronic rare disease (Psoriatic Arthritis). But in my professional life, I was a teacher, and in my day a lot of ADD/ADHD children passed through my professional care zone. ("Classroom" is far too narrow a definition of what I did!) I used to wonder and marvel at parents who parented my special kids when they went home. I have many skills, and a deep well of patience and resources, but my deepest admiration went out to those parents who were able to parent the special kids that so challenged every skill and bit of patience that I had.
My hat's off to you, Mom! And I hope that this weekend finds you feeling a bit more calm and strong.
Thanks so much....
Ninja Sue, you have to be very clear with yourself about the slap. You crossed a line and your son knows that. What will you do? Maybe you'll have to tell your son you were wrong. He can learn a good rule, too: Don't touch anyone when you're mad. Strong doesn't mean you don't have feelings, that you don't get totally exasperated, and that you never get tired. I don't know how you recharge your batteries, especially with such a busy season at work right now, but find a healthy way to take the pressure off. Ask for specific support from your husband and son. I feel for you. I'd like to hear how you're doing again.
I wish I could say I did something great to recharge and have me time, but right now I don't have the time or the outlet. I used to do Zumba a couple times a week and I miss it, but the classes are no longer within a reasonable distance. At this point I hardly see my friends and family and find I isolate myself more and more....I know bad bad bad. I woke up this AM with severe anxiety, which has not happened for months. I need to find a balance!
I truly feel blessed to have found this site and the support it offers. At least I don't hold it all in like I used to and have an outlet for the good bad or indifferent.
Thanks so much for your continued support.
Hi NinjaSue, it’s still tax time and I hope you and your family are managing well.
When a family is very stressed I remind parents of Child and Family Services for locating parenting workshops. I see there’s one in Augusta. Here’s one number: (207) ■■■■■■■■. There’s more info on the website. Your son’s doctor, teachers, or other parents know more about family resources in your own town. I found a good therapist, MSW, and returned to see her over a 25 year period! I went for my own stuff but she knew about parenting and was so helpful to me.
Best to you. Happy Spring