Just when I think that we are on the right track. Trying some natural supplements, getting on track with school it all comes tumbling down. Last week my 12 year old got caught with weed at school. It appears he decided to start self medicating. The worst part is he was turned in by a friend and teammate. Now if this was due to concern I would be fine, but it was malicious and then he and his mother denied it and we found out he was spreading rumors about it. Because we don't have enough on our plate right now. So, said son was kicked off the football team. He has been suspended for 8 days not to mention losing his electronics and his internet use is gone for the foreseeable future due to the fact he learned how to make a homemade pipe for his weed on youtube. Oh did I mention we will have a court date soon.
So we found a therapist, we are working with a local martial arts program and this AM I found his phone (who knows where he found it) under his pillow. When asked what he was doing with it he admits he had been watching youtube videos. This is not how we gain our parents trust back. I am almost more concerned about his addiction to youtube than the weed. He thinks everything he watches there is the gospel and fine and safe to "try at home".
He does not seem to understand the severity of what he has done and almost acts as if we are the bad guys because we are mad and punishing him. He told his father (from the couch this AM) that he was not going to leave if his father was not going to get him whatever it was he wanted. Dictating from the throne....we did not raise him this way. He is rude, he is disrespectful...I just don't know what to do.
Dealing with his unmedicated ADHD and kidney disease is enough. How am supposed to deal with this also?